Both Venus and the Moon in astrology are emotion based planets. Venus mainly rules love, also what attracts us and makes us feel beautiful. The Moon is the basis of emotion, how we feel cared for and nurtured and what we do to care for others. They are both dealing with comfort and ‘taking care’ of others and ourselves. They are important regarding relationships and shouldn’t be overlooked. Though Mars might be physical attraction, Venus is the heart’s attraction. Though Mars might confidently go after what it wants, the moon sits patiently and feels whether the option is right or not.
If the natives Moon is in a water sign- it is almost necessary for the other partner to have water somewhere in their chart. This is not necessarily so for Venus. Granted, there are exceptions, but the understanding and feeling needed to connect deeply with a water Moon is almost out of reach of those without water in their charts. Water is deep, emotional, intense, intimate, heartfelt- they need someone who understands those depths and have experienced them and does so on a daily basis like they do.
Venus can be said to represent what we ‘want’ and the moon can be said to represent what we ‘need’. If the two are in discord because of aspects, houses, or signs, it can cause the native confusion. The native must learn to compromise and figure out what is truly important to them in order for them to feel loved and emotionally secure. Finding a partner that can compliment both sides is ideal. When a partner is found that doesn’t fit exactly where they need to (this is most of the time) it is up to the native to make sacrifices. For example:
A native with their Venus in Sagittarius and their Moon in Taurus has a fire/earth combination. The earth tends to suffocate the fire or the fire scorches the earth. They WANT freedom, acceptance, adventure. They NEED security, loyalty, comfort. A partner that gives them too much freedom will threaten their security and leave them wondering whether they truly care about them, but a partner that they know will never leave them and provides a place them to stay and be comfortable in will make the native feel suffocated and unable to express their true self and freedoms. A happy medium would be a loyal partner that enjoys adventure and isn’t jealous but makes them feel they are still special to them. If the native is with someone that doesn’t fit this exactly, they must learn to see both sides of themselves and where the repulsion (if any) is coming from. What need isn’t being met? What want is going unfulfilled? The native may be able to get one of these sides from a different source (honestly and openly) but the trick is NOT to repress either side. Let the earth grow and the fire burn in their own expression rather than having one suffocate the other.
Those who have their Moon and Venus in the same sign- congratulations! You are quite lucky. You feel nurtured and loved from the same source. This is beautiful. Those who have their moon sign in the house their Venus rules or vice-verse, same for you! It is much easier this way. Even with clashing elements the house placements can add a lot of ease. For example:
A native with their Venus in Virgo and Moon in Leo in the 6th house would seem to clash up front. The Venus Virgo needs stability, practicality, and loves by doing things for others. The Moon in Leo feels nurtured by others feeding their ego, praising them and making them feel special. BUT, that same Leo Moon in the 6th house not only enjoy praise but needs to nurture others in return- the 6th house is ruled by Virgo and servitude. Doing nice things for the one they love makes them feel just as good and fulfilled.